Today’s Experience and Marriage
I was eating lunch in a public place today and I had the opportunity to watch a man and a woman arguing rather loudly. I was really shocked by this, simply because arguing between a man and woman is not something I am used to. You see, my wife and I never argue. Not since the beginning of our marriage almost 19 years ago have we argued. We have chosen not to. There are many marriage counselors that would say that that isn’t “healthy”. I’ve heard some say that you need to argue fairly. I guess there is some wisdom in that. But, why argue at all? I am admittedly not a marriage counselor, but what is more important? Being “right”? Or spending the rest of my life with the woman I adore? And she feels the same way. Very often, but not always, the concept of having to be right is based on a self centered attitude. Yes, the Bible says that the woman is supposed to submit to the husband, but that is not my concern. My concern is what I have covenanted with my wife, and God, to do.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
Eph 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
Eph 5:29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
I do not worry what my wife is supposed to do. I fulfill my part of our covenant. And she fulfills hers. Marriage is not a 50/50 propostion. It is 100/100. I give myself totally to my wife and the unimportant things remain unimportant.
God Bless,
Dave